PREGNANCY AFTER LOSS
Finding you are pregnant after loss, whether intended or not, is equal parts exciting and terrifying. Families are often hesitant to acknowledge their pregnancy or share their news in anticipation of another loss. This is normal. We are here to support you.
What is a rainbow baby? A rainbow baby is a baby born after a miscarriage, stillborn, or neonatal death. It is called a rainbow baby because it is like a rainbow after a storm: something beautiful after something scary and dark. While Three Little Birds uses this term, we recognize it is not for everyone. We encourage families to define their families in a way that is comfortable to you.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, she needs time and care to assimilate the experience into her life. Every aspect of her life is changed. Pregnancies impact her: hearing that other people are pregnant, but also her own subsequent pregnancies impact her as well.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and then she becomes pregnant again, she doesn’t just “get to leave” the pregnancy loss demographic. She will forever be a loss mom. When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and then she becomes pregnant again, she enters into this new pregnancy in a different way than she has ever entered into a pregnancy before.
She is scared in a way she wasn’t before. She is excited in a way she wasn’t before. She is aware of loss mothers’ feelings toward her pregnancy in a way she wasn’t before. She cherishes her pregnancy in a way she hasn’t before. She is eager for the full term, live, happy delivery of her baby in a way she hadn’t been before.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and learns that another mother who has also endured a loss has become pregnant again, she needs to remember that this pregnancy does not take the mother out of grief. It does not remove her from the reality of her loss. In an effort to support these complex emotions and managing a healthy pregnancy, Three Little Birds offers the following services to our families:
Rainbow Baby Door Signs for purchase - In an effort to support families and medical professionals, we have developed beautiful door signs that make staff and visitor's aware there is a layer of grief associated with your birth that you wish for them to recognize. They can be purchased here.
Schedule a 3D/4D Ultrasound with Wondertime, LLC - Three Little Birds offers an experienced sonographer trained in perinatal loss and bereavement, so they are sensitive to your fears and anxiety. Sure, with your past, you may already get extra ultrasounds at your doctors appointments but we can guarantee you have never gotten a 3d/4D HD Ultrasound like the ones Glenda at Wondertime LLC does for our clients! And guess what? She gives all Three Little Birds clients a great discount for Rainbow Babies (plus she has adorable rainbow baby heartbeat animals and photo frames in her office too!!!)
Do a belly cast with your partner! Three Little Birds offers a kit you can purchase (email us!) or you can purchase your own as well. If you schedule a maternity session with Image is Everything Studios, they'll even help you do one as well!
Schedule a Maternity Portrait Session - Our community sponsor, Image is Everything Studios provides discounted rainbow baby sessions for our loss families. They specialize in Rainbow Maternity Sessions, as well as perinatal loss and bereavement. Our goal is to provide family portraits that memorialize the child you lost while honoring and celebrating the arrival of their sibling.
Rainbow Baby Support Packages/Gifts - Our goal is to validate and honor families through loss and beyond. Our Rainbow Baby Support Box provides resources and items to provide comfort and validation to families as they welcome their newest child, while honoring their previous loss.
One-on-One Empathetic, Non-Judgmental Support - Our organization was founded by others who have walked similar journeys. We are trained bereavement professionals who simply want to support your needs in these unique situations. We know how terrifying pregnancy after loss can be. We are here to support you.