FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
DOES THREE LITTLE BIRDS CHARGE FOR SUPPORT SERVICES?
No one should have to pay for support when experiencing pregnancy and/or infant loss. We provide personalized one-on-one support immediately and long term through our services and programs AT NO COST to our families. Additionally, Three Little Birds does not directly solicit donations from the families we serve. We can provide this unique, comprehensive support through donations received from generous individuals, sales from our Etsy Store, our volunteers, our corporate sponsors and community partners.
HOW CAN I TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS FREE SUPPORT?
Three Little Birds understands how overwhelming these situations are and the reluctance of families to reach out for support based on the stigma associated with this type of grief. Families can reach out and receive direct support and resources via phone/text, email, or our social media pages. Our trained bereavement doulas will listen to you, ask you about your special baby, your experience and the type of support you and your family may need.
I JUST RECEIVED A LIFE-LIMITING/UNCERTAIN FETAL DIAGNOSIS. WHAT ARE MY OPTIONS?
Many doctors will provide families who receive a life-limiting or uncertain fetal diagnosis the option to terminate the pregnancy or carry the baby to term. For many families, termination is not a feasible option.
Whether you personally choose to terminate for medical reasons or carry your pregnancy to term, we can provide you with compassionate care. We'll connect you other parents who have walked this path before, and who will perhaps help you decide what is best for yourself, your baby, family and unique situation. We have supported families through both options with memory making, photography and bereavement support. We are YOUR advocates, no matter how difficult or misunderstood this choice may be for your family or friends.
Three Little Birds offers a comprehensive Palliative Care Support Package that provides you with financial and birth planning resources, complementary services with our community partners and a nest of support as you prepare to say hello to your baby.
WHAT IS THE STANDARD GIFT OF INFANT REMEMBRANCE PORTRAITURE?
Three Little Birds offers the gift of infant remembrance photography to families suffering the loss of a baby. When requested and a volunteer is available, we will send a trained bereavement photographer to meet and capture the love between your family. Sessions generally last 30-45 minutes and incorporate all family members in the process. While many families are initially hesitant to bereavement photography, every family we have served later stated they would have regretted NOT having the experience. In fact, many families have called us to thank us for encouraging them to have the session, as they were initially hesitant, but found healing and solace in the images of their baby.
When a volunteer is not available, we offer complimentary retouching services for any photographs taken by your family or the hospital staff.
All photographs are processed within four weeks of the session date. Generally 10-25, gently edited, black and white photographs are returned to the family via a password-protected Pic-Time gallery. Instructions are provided on how to save (free) and print photos (nominal fee).
WHERE CAN I PURCHASE A BEREAVEMENT GIFT?
To keep our services free of charge, Three Little Birds depends on sales of items in our Etsy store. Each item available for purchase is handmade/designed to provide comfort, validation and remembrance for families suffering from pregnancy/infant loss. All proceeds (less materials) go directly to supporting our services and programs. Our Etsy store offers support and comfort boxes for miscarriage, baby loss, pregnancy after loss, sibling and dad support. We are always looking to create more items to support families through loss.
HOW CAN I CONNECT WITH OTHER LOSS FAMILIES?
Our nest of professional and personal support includes events, closed Facebook support groups and pairing up families, who have shared similar circumstances, to connect individually.
Our annual Wave of Light event, in honor of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day (October 15th), is held to bring the community together in supporting one another and finding additional resources available to them.
Additionally, Three Little Birds hosts several "Craft N Heal" support groups throughout the year. These gatherings are smaller and entail creating a personalized craft while listening, sharing and supporting one another. Our attendees have expressed they prefer this format in lieu of the traditional support groups available elsewhere.
We are always seeking to host events to support siblings, fathers, extended family and friends. Let us know if you have any gathering ideas you may be interested in attending or coordinating.
Lastly, since support groups are always encouraged, we do have a list of local ones available HERE!
WHERE DO I START IN PLANNING A FUNERAL?
Three Little Birds Perinatal understands that the expenses associated with losing your baby is often unexpected and monumental. We can provide a list of assistance programs to help in hopes to make this as stress free as possible. We highly recommend designating a close friend or family member to fill out the applications for you in order to take the burden off of yourself.
There are several compassionate service providers in the region that provide support at minimal or no cost. There are others that charge full price for their services. We are working to develop a list of providers that will support your family and its needs.
Cremation is generally a less expensive option for families. Cremation jewelry can be purchased to wear your baby with you. Many people find this comforting and meaningful.
Burial options vary due to numerous factors: service provider costs, burial plots, headstones and memorial services can add to the overall cost.
There are financial resources available through other organizations that can assist in offsetting this expense. We can assist you or a family member in obtaining this information and finding a service provider in your community you can trust.