Meeting and Loving Your Baby

No parent imagines having to make these decisions when birth does not go as planned. It is unfair, and we are so sorry you are here. Please know: your baby is beautiful, they matter, and they deserve to be loved and celebrated.

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Ways to Bond & Create Memories

There is no “right” or “wrong” way—only what feels meaningful to you. Families often choose to:

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• Request a blessing or sacrament from clergy, a loved one, or offer one themselves.

• Bathe and dress their baby with care and love.

• Hold or cuddle their baby, including skin-to-skin bonding for both parents.

• Take keepsakes like handprints, footprints, or special items.

• Involve family members, including siblings, grandparents, or friends.

• Celebrate with personal traditions—reading stories, singing lullabies, bringing gifts, or simply sitting quietly together.

• Capture photos or videos—whether by family, medical staff, or volunteer photographers.

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Infant Remembrance Photography

Three Little Birds offers professional remembrance portraiture at no cost through our Bedside Bereavement Program.

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• Sessions typically last 30–45 minutes.

• Photos may include baby’s details, parents, siblings, and special family moments.

• You may include clothing, keepsakes, or rituals that are meaningful to you.

• Families receive a private online gallery to view when ready. Photos are carefully edited, often in black and white, and may be retouched if taken by hospital staff or family.

 

Common Questions

Do I have to bond or take photos right away? No. There is no rush. Many parents rest or recover first. You may also change your mind at any time before discharge—or even request memory making through your funeral provider afterward.

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What if my partner doesn’t want to participate? That is normal. Each parent may cope differently. You can still choose what feels right for you, and both decisions are valid.

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Can siblings or other relatives be involved? Yes, if you wish. Many families find it healing for siblings or grandparents to meet the baby. Our Bereaved Sibling Support Advocate can also help guide this decision.

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What if I am afraid of what my baby will look like? This fear is natural. Every baby is unique depending on gestational age and circumstances. Our trained advocates will gently support you through this. Above all, your baby is loveable and deserves dignity and care.

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What if my loved ones don’t agree with memory making? Their discomfort is valid, but the choice is yours. Grief is personal. You are your baby’s parent, and you have the right to decide what feels right for your family.

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Support Beyond Our Region

If you live outside our service area, the following organizations may help:

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• Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep – Nationwide infant remembrance photography.

• Sweet Grace Ministries – Resources, support groups, remembrance events (Central PA).

• Pittsburgh Bereavement Doulas – Guidance for pregnancy and newborn loss.

• Stillbirthday.com – Directory of bereavement doulas nationwide.

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Next steps...

Click here for information and resources for you to consider regarding autopsy, burial and cremation.

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