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Three Little Birds Perinatal has the ability to help so many Rainbow families because of amazing volunteers, like our own Desiree Miller. Desiree and her business partner, Stacy, own and operate Image is Everything Studios in Swedesboro, NJ. They are always willing to use their studio space, as well as donate their time, for anything we may need. So many Palliative Care families have benefited from complimentary Maternity portrait sessions and belly castings. Even more recently, the families we've helped have begun returning to the studio for complimentary Rainbow Maternity portrait sessions, all in an effort to honor our families after their losses. Desiree has an ability to communicate the emotion in your photos with wanting to incorporate your child that can't be here, to the child now on the way. It is something so many people love about her images when working with Three Little Birds and our Palliative Care program!
And thank goodness for Stacy; her willingness to help out whenever needed and always ready to be our videographer for Three Little Birds filming/interviews. She's also volunteered countless hours creating items for our support boxes, sewing heating pads for post-partum moms and being that extra hand for belly casting.
We really do not know what we would do without Image is Everything Studios and just wanted to take a moment to thank them from the bottom of our heart!
As always, all families receiving Palliative Care services through TLB will always receive a maternity session at absolutely no charge, either through Image is Everything Studios or another local photographer (on the off chance they are not available in an emergent situation.
For returning Rainbow Baby Families, Image is Everything Studios is kind enough to offer a complimentary session with 5 digital images and 25% off of any additional purchases. If you would also like Image is Everything to also do your newborn session, the session fee will also be complimentary to existing TLB families only, but no images will be included. All TLB families will be offered a 25% discount from normal pricing! *One offer per qualifying family
Thank you Image is Everything Studios, both Desiree and Stacy! You never cease to amaze us with your generosity and beautiful work! www.imageiseverythingstudios.com
September 2, 2015
This was the due date Kathleen and her husband Brian were given for their daughter Scarlet.
They had an unremarkable and healthy pregnancy with absolutely no complications.
There was nothing to hint that anything would go wrong.
At 36 weeks 5 days into her pregnancy, Kathleen noticed less movement from Scarlet. She decided to get checked at the hospital just to make sure everything was okay. That's when their world came crashing down.
They were told "I'm sorry, there is no heartbeat".
Scarlet was born still on August 12, 2015 at 37 weeks. She was absolutely beautiful. Kathleen and Brian's family were there, as well as the pastor from their church. They took turns holding her, praying over her and everyone could not stop commenting how gorgeous Scarlet was.
Three Little Birds Co-Founder and NILMDTS Volunteer Photographer, Desiree Miller, met the Williams' family after she received a request for photography services for Scarlet. Upon entering the room, it was apparent just how loved and wanted this little girl was. They had adorable outfits there for her to wear, so they took care to make them able to fit her. They wrapped her in her blankets and took as many photos as they could with her mom and dad, and by herself. Desiree' spent time photographing and making memories with the family, walking the journey with them as they said hello and goodbye to their first child.
When we talked to Scarlet's mom, Kathleen, now about the photo experience, she told us “I’m so happy I have the pictures of my baby girl because it’s the only thing I have left to remember her by." Desiree says it's the exact reason she has continued to volunteer for NILMDTS since 2007.
After losing Scarlet in 2015, Three Little Birds kept in contact with the Williams family, as it is our mission is to provide immediate and long-term support to families. For Kathleen Williams, "I would recommended TLB to other families. It is good to have support when you are going through a terrible loss. It’s very hard. And you definitely need a support group to help you through! TLB helps you go through the whole grieving process. They are by your side every step of the way!"
Unfortunately for Brian and Kathleen, they continued to experience future losses with 2 subsequent miscarriages at 5 weeks and 6 weeks. Kathleen said she has continued to feel supported by TLB throughout her losses, but we are still sad for her family to have had to go through this experience.
This brings us to mid-2018, Kathleen and Brian let us know that they were expecting their Rainbow Baby this coming March and that this pregnancy was looking healthy and viable. We were ecstatic for them both and could not wait to support them on this journey, as we make an effort to help families bond with their rainbow babies, all while memorializing and honoring their previous loss(es). When asked why she felt she wanted to continue with Three Little Birds, Kathleen says "....because they have supported me emotionally and they know what I am going through." She says "I have major anxiety because there is no safe milestone in this pregnancy. I believe I will have a healthy rainbow baby, but every day is a struggle to think positive. Especially when I lost my baby girl at 37 weeks. TLB is already so supportive of me and my rainbow baby."
Actually, most are unaware that Three Little Birds offers families we assisted in the past, several support services, at no cost. The Williams family was excited to participate in one of those, a Rainbow Baby Maternity Shoot, to honor both of their precious children. They had a beautiful idea to incorporate Scarlet, who would now be a toddler, into their maternity photos and the outcome was just breathtaking!
We are so honored to be a part of Brian and Kathleen's journey and cannot wait to meet their Rainbow Baby in one short month! We thank them for their willingness to share their story and hope that it inspires you to have HOPE in your own journey!
Pregnancy after loss can be a very scary and anxious time. If you need support, and even if you are not a prior family of Three Little Birds, please contact us. We support all loss families.
NILMDTS Volunteer Photography by Desiree Miller
Rainbow Maternity Photo Shoot by Desiree Miller, Image is Everything Studios
PLEASE NOTE: For returning Rainbow Baby Families, Three Little Birds (partnering with Image is Everything Studios) is kind enough to offer a complimentary session with 5 digital images and 25% off of any additional purchases. *One offer per qualifying family to families we have supported through loss. Because we are a volunteer organization, our resources are limited. Our other resources are always FREE to anyone who is seeking support. For more information on our Pregnancy After Loss Support and Resources, click here.
WHAT IS A RAINBOW BABY?
A “rainbow baby” is a term used for a baby that is born following a miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death or infant loss. In the real world, a beautiful and bright rainbow follows a storm and gives hope of things getting better. The rainbow is more appreciated having just experienced the storm in comparison. We understand not everyone likes or utilizes this term, however there are many people find comfort in this metaphor. We encourage families to find what works best for them and their unique family.
PREGNANCY AFTER LOSS SUPPORT
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, she needs time and care to assimilate the experience into her life. Every aspect of her life is changed. Pregnancies impact her: hearing that other people are pregnant, but also her own subsequent pregnancies impact her as well.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and then she becomes pregnant again, she doesn’t just “get to leave” the pregnancy loss demographic. She will forever be a loss mom.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and then she becomes pregnant again, she enters into this new pregnancy in a different way than she has ever entered into a pregnancy before.
She is scared in a way she wasn’t before.
She is excited in a way she wasn’t before.
She is aware of loss mothers’ feelings toward her pregnancy in a way she wasn’t before.
She cherishes her pregnancy in a way she hasn’t before.
She is eager for the full-term, live, happy delivery of her baby in a way she hadn’t been before.
When a mother experiences a pregnancy loss, and learns that another mother who has also endured a loss has become pregnant again, she needs to remember that this pregnancy does not take the mother out of grief. It does not remove her from the reality of her loss.
We loss mothers need to encourage one another, be supportive of one another, and be respectful of one another.
Three Little Birds Perinatal & Palliative Care Advocacy & Support Center is proud to be able to support the families we help through loss transition into their new family dynamic as they await the arrival of their rainbow baby!
Our StillBirthday Certified Doulas have resources and information available to support you and your family as you await the arrival of your new baby, all the while honoring the children you have lost in a respectful and loving way. We are available to speak via text, phone, email and in person to discuss your feelings and empower you in your future.
For more information on the support services we provide to our Three Little Birds families experiencing pregnancy after loss, please visit our support page here!
Kristen Samuelson, SBD, Founder & Director