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Last month, we shared the story of Noelle Philomena Laughlin and her family as they await the birth of her sibling this spring! Noelle's parents, Alex and Jodi have founded Noelle's Light, a non-profit whose mission is to provide financial assistance to families, like theirs, whose babies are given a life-threatening fetal diagnosis.
Noelle's father, Alex remarks, “As Noelle’s parents, we do our best to carry her in our daily life through honest and often painful conversation, as well as recognize our obligation to embrace our experience with Noelle, act on it, and in turn, help others,” says Alex. “Throughout our experience with Noelle, we realized that, on top of receiving terrifying news of a fetal diagnosis, often times parents incur financial strain resulting from simply trying to make the best medical decisions for their unborn child. Medical expenses, travel expenses, lost wages – it can have a snowball effect that can make an already difficult situation completely unbearable.”
In an effort to begin the foundation of Noelle's Light, the Laughlin's have produced a survey they hope will assist them in providing financial assistance to families facing a life threatening fetal diagnosis. The purpose of this survey is to learn about your experience as parents in order for the survey owners to identify areas of need during this time. This survey is for all mothers and fathers who are dealing with or have dealt with a fetal diagnosis during pregnancy and should take less than 10 minutes to complete. All responses will remain confidential.
Three Little Birds is excited to work with and support Noelle's Light!
In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan Proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. He stated, "When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn't a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes."
President Reagan touched the hearts and grief of millions by making that bold statement and since, bereaved parents across the country began to recognize and honor their grief in losing a pregnancy and/or infant. This has sparked a movement for families everywhere to openly and proudly discuss their babies and their loss as personally or publically as they wanted.
From that, October 15 has become a universal day of remembrance for pregnancy loss and infant death. This day is observed with remembrance ceremonies and candle-lighting vigils, concluding with the International Wave of Light worldwide lighting of candles.
It is important for families to acknowledge their loss as they find appropriate, however, many need permission to grieve these losses. When you are ready, it's important for you and your family to remember your baby in ways that are special. Even if you may not have had the chance to see, touch or hold him or even give your baby a name, there are things you can do to help you remember your baby. Collect things that remind you of your baby. These might be ultrasound pictures, footprints, a hospital bracelet, photos, clothes, blankets or toys. Put them in a special box or scrapbook. Do or make something special to remember your baby. In addition to participating in the Wave of Light Ceremony, you may also find the following things helpful in coping with your loss:
Three Little Birds Perinatal & Palliative Care Advocacy and Support Center’s mission is to support families through these losses. Your loss does not have to be recent for us to support you. Grief is a life-long battle and we have several qualified empathetic support volunteer who can discuss your thoughts and feelings with you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You and your baby matter to us and we are here to support you, but more importantly honor and validate your baby’s memory.
Perinatal Comfort Care Package Miscarriage Comfort Care Package
Three Little Birds Perinatal's Comfort Care Packages are now available for sale via our Etsy store!
Our Perinatal Comfort Care Boxes make a great gift for someone suffering from stillbirth (20 weeks gestation or greater) or the loss of an infant up to six months. Each box is personalized with the baby's name. A photo of the personalized box can be sent to you prior to shipping. Click here to purchase a personalized Perinatal Comfort Care Box for a loved one!
Our Miscarriage Comfort Care Boxes make a great gift for someone suffering from miscarriage (20 weeks gestation or earlier). A photo of the package can be sent to you prior to shipping. Click here to purchase a Miscarriage Comfort Care Box for a loved one!
A GIFT THAT GIVES BACK!
The purchase of a Three Little Birds Comfort Care Package will also provide a free box to a Three Little Birds family through our Comfort Care Package Program! Thank you for supporting the mission and services of Three Little Birds Perinatal & Palliative Care Advocacy & Support Center!
Kristen Samuelson, SBD, Founder & Director