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Three Little Bird's Focus Theme for the March is SUPPORT.
But what does that mean exactly?
Our mission is to provide support services to families suffering from the loss of a pregnancy or infant or who receive a life-limiting or uncertain fetal diagnosis. What type of support is available?
For families suffering from the unexpected loss of a pregnancy via miscarriage or stillbirth, we offer immediate and long-term support through various services including infant remembrance photography, memory making and any rituals or ceremonies your family would like to participate in. It is your right to bond with your child and we advocate for that time for you.
For families who receive a life-limiting or uncertain diagnosis, we provide you with information and resources for your to make informed consent in the care of your and your child. This includes birth planning support, options for bonding and memory making, as well as supporting all your wishes and needs as your prepare for birth.
Three Little Birds is dedicated to give each unique family we serve everything they need. To do this, we conduct informal, confidential surveys to gauge the experiences, thoughts, feelings, needs and effective support of our families so we can tailor our services and programs to suit those particular needs. Additionally, we use this information to educate the medical community on how to effectively communicate, understand and empathize with patients as they endure pregnancy and infant loss. We are developing a comprehensive Perinatal Bereavement Care Workshop for hospitals to educate them on the growing field of perinatal loss. We are also proud members of the International Stillbirth Alliance and the Pregnancy Loss and Infant Death Alliance, organizations dedicated to research and the prevention of pregnancy and infant loss. Through these organizations, we are able to keep abreast to research, data, trends and additional ways we can support families.
Direct support services for families suffering from the unexpected loss of a pregnancy or infant are encouraged to review our website filled with resources and information that may be helpful. Additionally, our StillBirthday-Certified Bereavement Doulas are available to provide one-on-one empathetic, personalized care via text, email, telephone or in-person. We validate your experience, your love and the need for support and are here to walk the journey with you immediately and long-term.
For families facing uncertain or life-limiting fetal diagnosis, we provide several options to support bonding leading up to delivery. In addition to one-on-one personalized care through our Palliative Care Support Package, Three Little Birds offers complementary maternity photo shoots for families to memorialize their time together and bond. Additionally, our Program Sponsor, Wondertime, LLC, provides complementary 4D Ultrasound imaging and heartbeat bear captures for families to intimately bond with their baby in utereo. These keepsakes will be come family treasures for years to come!
Your pregnancy mattered. Your baby mattered. Your experience is real. Whether it was a few days or full-term your child is your child and not even death can break the bonds of love between a parent and their babies. Unfortunately, there are many others who cannot and/or will not understand what has happened and struggle with how to support you. Please know, it is ok. We support you. We are a nest of families who have walked similar journeys and have experienced similar changes in relationships and how we cope as loss parents moving forward.
We are here. We see you. The nest is always open for hugs and encouragement. It only gets stronger the as more families join and feel inspired by their love and loss. We encourage each other in our mourning and find healthy avenues to express grief. What you are experiencing is very real, but as much as it may seem, you are NOT alone.
We are here. Your family matters.
How can we better support you? Let us know!
While Three Little Birds Perinatal supports all faiths and belief systems, we operate as a universally accepting and loving organization. Many families who lose babies, refer to their children as "angels". Some families are comforted by religious texts and imagery. Many families assign animals or symbols to represent their baby's spirit. Regardless of belief, bird symbolism has been used for centuries in scripture, folklore and culture to represent numerous emotions, journeys and spiritual comfort, especially associated with grief. In an effort to connect the symbolism of birds with loss, as well as our 2018 focus theme of the month, Three Little Birds will explore the meanings and connections of different species of birds and how they can be connected to grief and healing..
The Focus Theme for February for Three Little Birds Perinatal is LOVE.
Love birds are the living testimony of the most wonderful emotion on earth - love. These little parrots always seen in pairs are the ideal symbol of love, ecstasy, long-term commitment, loyalty and care. Isn't it a pleasure to watch cute, little birdies sitting in pair and cooing love?
Love birds, the small African parrots with colorful feathers, derive their name of endearment from the way they sit together in pairs all day long. The way they hop and play around and closely stick to each other indeed makes for an affectionate demonstration of love. It is apparently believed that the love birds cannot survive without their mates for long and thus, have come to represent fidelity and love over the years.
When couples experience the loss of a pregnancy or baby, each of them experiences it in their own way. Many relationships may not survive a loss and only further complicates the healing process. While grief has to be processed by the individual in their own way, Three Little Birds supports loving support of each other in the weeks and months that follow these tragedies. There are several support professionals available to help couples navigate the challenges of these losses. Love created the life that was lost and it can also help heal it, when treated with respect, dignity and empathy.
There is an ancient belief that on Valentine's Day these birds pick their mates. You would be surprise to know that in some parts of the United Kingdom, Valentine's Day is celebrated as 'Bird's Wedding Day'. Valentine's Day, the day of love, has for long been associated to hearts, candies, flowers, cupid, and not to forget, the very lovey-dovey love birds. It is believed that on this day, the love birds pick their mates and their association is usually a long one. Once mated, the love birds are almost inseparable, with their bond often lasting for a lifetime. Because of this, the love birds have come to connote fidelity, long-term commitment and love.
While most couples will cite difficulties in their relationships after loss, many families find that the tragic experience they weathered together only strengthened their bonds, much like the love birds. Three Little Birds can offer your family numerous ways to bond your family together after loss and in memory your sweet child.
This month, Three Little Birds will be celebrating LOVE and discussing how to use love to heal grief and help others, as well as promoting our pregnancy after loss support services. We encourage you to tell us….how do you use love to heal your heart?
Three Little Birds' focus Theme for February is, appropriately, LOVE.
Is it better to lived and love, then to never loved at all? - Alfred Lord Tennyson
Many families faced with pregnancy loss, or an uncertain or life-limiting fetal diagnosis, struggle with understanding love and grief during these experiences and often times are afraid to bond and parent their child.
Many families are encouraged by their doctors to terminate their pregnancy without being given resources and information to help them make informed decisions or give informed consent regarding their future and the care and respect they wish for their baby. Many families decide to carry their children to term struggle with discussing their situations with others and are unsure of what is appropriate or best for them to do during this difficult time.
Regardless of the family's personal decisions, Three Little Birds encourages families to bond and make memories with their babies. For families unexpectedly experiencing loss through miscarriage and stillbirth, it is often impossible to process what is going on, let alone know how to make memories. We always encourage LOVE. Families can still bond with a baby who has passed away as a family in the short time they have together.
For as sweet as it is, LOVE is why grief and loss is so painful. We love so hard and when we "lose" that love, we find ourselves faced with emotional and physical pain that is so indescribable. While making memories feel impossible or too hard to face, there will come a time in the family's healing journey they will NEED those memories to heal and move forward. In the last two years of serving families, we have never had one person regret making those memories.
Additionally, this month, Three Little Birds is launching its Pregnancy After Loss/Rainbow Baby Support. More info on our long-term support services for our families can be found here.
One last note on LOVE....We are hosting our first Craft 'N Sip event on February 9th at 6:30 PM. The intention of this event is to gather families and their family and friend's support to talk about our love and losses and create a beautiful piece of art made as each participant wishes! Space is limited! Get your tickets soon!
Join us in celebrating LOVE!
Kristen Samuelson, SBD, Founder & Director