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Three Little Birds is seeking to add a comprehensive list of FREE monthly support groups in the Philadelphia Metro (Philadelphia, Delaware, Montgomery and Bucks Counties) and Southern New Jersey (Camden, Gloucester, Burlington and Atlantic Counties) to our monthly newsletter.
If you facilitate a FREE support group and would like to be included, please email us your group information to be added to our website and monthly newsletter. Three Little Birds firmly believes no one should have to pay for support in coping with the loss of a pregnancy and/or baby, therefore the groups and outreach we promote must be free. Exceptions are made for events where there is a material take away, as long as the cost of the event is to cover the raw cost of materials only, i.e., Three Little Birds's Craft N Sip Support Events.
If you are in need of empathetic, one-on-one private support, families are encouraged to reach out to us to be put in contact with one of our Stillbirthday-certified Bereavement Doulas. Support can be provided via telephone, text, email or face to face....whatever is most comfortable for you. Call 856-656-6436 or email firstname.lastname@example.org for more information and support.
Earlier this summer, the Philadelphia Inquirer invited Three Little Birds to discuss the emotional and financial aspects of losing a baby and/or pregnancy. The healthcare costs of having a healthy baby are staggering, and even more so for families who leave the hospital empty armed and broken hearted.
If you have suffered out of pocket healthcare costs after experiencing a miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss and would like to share your story, please let us know and we will put you in contact with Sarah Gantz at the Philadelphia Inquirer. They are seeking other brave families to discuss their experiences and the out of pocket costs they incurred. It is sharing our experiences that helps institute change and helps others understand!
Sunday, September 9, 2018 is Grandparent's Day in North America. Most of us remember having a special connection with our grandparents growing up and reminisce of the time spent together. Many people do not realize, however, the grief grandparents experience when they lose a grandchild via stillbirth, neonatal loss and miscarriage.
No one expects to outlive their own children, much less experience the loss of a much-loved, much-wanted grandchild. It is so difficult to raise a family, see your children do the same and see the cycle broken in this out-of-order way. NO one is prepared for the grief that follows. As a grandparent, you have double grief. You grieve your grandchild who has died, as well as for your own child who is now a bereaved parent. You not only feel your own pain and sadness, but also feel helpless and frustrated at not being able to help your bereaved child.
It helps to remember that there is no timetable for grief. Don't expect too much of your child, his or her spouse or yourself. At first, no one believes it. When the reality hits, everyone feels even more devastated. It is important to consider your needs as well as those of your bereaved child.
Acknowledging and working with your grief will help you and indirectly, your grieving child. Don't be surprised if at first you can't reach out to your grieving child. Remember that you are grieving. Be patient with yourself. Eventually, you may be able to talk, listen and help. IF you find that you can't help specifically with the grief you can send cards, tell them you love them, etc. Explain that you wish that you could be of more help but you don't know what to do.
SUGGESTIONS FOR HELPING YOURSELF AND YOUR GRIEVING CHILD
Kristen Samuelson, SBD, Founder & Director